ONly outgoing, loud, people with brains or talent, or talkative people have chance for love?

27 male here. i don't understand how people find love. i've never had a gf. I"m reserved , quiet person and although i don't have love, i've seen tons of people who have gfs bfs. Most of those people have something good about them though. Example: People who are talented( music, computer science, etc) or good speakers, or people who gossip alot and talk and talk nonstop.





That's why, even if some people with a gf are kind of reserved like me, but have a talent...then somehow the girl is attracted.





But i really don't have any talent. Let me run through my negatives:





not handsome, bony skinny h ands kind of marfan syndrome looking, not smart i struggle with language, can't even talk well , i limp have knee problems and other health problems, can't play guitar well, nor piano, i ve studied languages but i am not good even though i spend lots of time studying. failed comp science.and math.





so tantless people who are quiet too, how can we ever find love?

ONly outgoing, loud, people with brains or talent, or talkative people have chance for love?
I agree that you need to work on your self esteem first. The way you feel about yourself will affect your ability to make friends. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else. That's a fact. You may not have talent, but do you have any interests? A hobby that you can pursue? I'm very quiet and shy, too. It's hard for me to make friends, too because I'm not outgoing, but I'm volunteering and going to church. I'm also going to join an online dating service. People are out there who you could be friends or more with, but you have to put yourself out there. You're pretty much guaranteed to not make friends or more by sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself. If you have low self esteem problems, you may need a therapist to help you. That's what I did and I'm feeling very hopeful about my future right now. By the way, I'm also 27.
Reply:I know how you feel dude. Keep your chin up. If you want a hot girl then treat her like a ho and she'll come running to ya. That's how it works.
Reply:Dude hit the gym ! Anyone can work out and get a great body..you dont have to be Arnold. Also if you are too skinny try a high protein diet. 6 servings of protein (20-25 grams each...milk has 1g per ounce)) per day spread out evenly. You will muscle up quick and I promise some lady will take notice and want to be your girlfriend.
Reply:The only way you are going to find love is that you leave that pity party you are at now and learn to love and enjoy yourself. My advice to you is to find out who you really are. Your unwillingness to accept yourself is keeping others from accepting you. Appearance is something that you can always change; but don't change that caring heart!! If you do; you'll cheat yourself and some lucky young women out of a chance at loving you!!!
Reply:Well the first thing you need to do is work on your self esteem. There are many guys out there that have just as many, even more difficulties, yet they get gfs because they take pride in themselves if you are not even trying to have a better self esteem it will be hard.
Reply:You have to go out and find it. Quiet/reserved people tend to stay at home (i think) and so they are not out there looking. If they ARE out, they continue to be quiet/reserved....and so, they don't meet anyone....and don't appear to be interesting to anyone. Finding love, friends, even just meeting someone takes effort on YOUR part! I used to be like that....but I decided to get loud and get some initiative. That's all it takes!
Reply:thats not true im very shy , my boyfriend approached me and asked me out
Reply:it doesn't take talent, it takes a self esteem