People politics?

I have a hard time making friends. For example, people at work get together and hang out outside of work, but I can't seem to make friends with any of them or hang out with them outside of work. It's hard for me to have conversations in general with people, and I try to hide the fact that I don't really go out and do anything or have friends. I've offered people at work to hang out and do something, but the one's I actually do want to hang out with will simply say there busy and I know that's just a polite way of saying they don't want to hang out. I have the same thing at school and any other place that I'm around people. How can I get more people to like me, hang out with and build relationships with? Should I snowboard? Have parties at my place? Make the initiative to make more activities and go to bars and places and invite people along to make it easy for them, be more outgoing? Get rid of my anger issues?

People politics?
Here are a few ways to help you:





1. Join a sport that has team mates





2. Have a get together with people that you sorta know.





3. Of course, get rid of your answer issues





4. Get a sense of humor. It always work.





5. Ask around at work if anyone wants to go to lunch with you and "the gang" (other workers that come)
Reply:Bars, parties, etc. is not going to gain friends they are far too superficial.





If you have interests, join some groups, do your thing, you will meet people.





Anger issues are a whole other topic.





Wish you well.
Reply:Well, if you have anger issues, you should definitely address those first. Then begin by talking to people at school about projects. Start there. I made a lot of friends at school that way.
Reply:Should you snowboard? Only if you think it will be fun, and only for that reason.





Should you throw parties at your place? No. You should have at least a few good friends before planning a party at your place, otherwise you might feel awkward at your own place.





Make the initiative? Definitely. Plan to go out some place and invite your co-workers. It will be a good way for them to get to know you outside of work. You can ask if they want to go to a bar or if they want to go snowboarding or do anything else you think would be fun. You could even set something up, like a Poker Night (or something else) every weekend.





Get rid of your anger issues? How bad are your anger issues? Are your anger issues actually the reason no one has taken the time to get to know you??? Regardless, you should work on that.
Reply:hi! nathan. i have the same problem. i finally figure out for myself what it is that drives people away. i have to love myself first by getting to know myself . i got the etiquette books by debra fine called the fine art of small talk. it really helps me a lot and other books too. i read the bible because it teaches you to be kind and good and all of that. i think when you talk to people, just be positive and avoid negative talk. i have noticed that people who have good friends tend to be very approachable. just watch and learn from someone who always draws people toward them. besides, i learn this from the past that being kind is always work. but not to let people use you though. you definitely do not want to buy friends because those are not the one you would want to be around. it is almost going shopping . it takes time to find quality people that you can depend on and are decent to be around and respect you and so on. if you go out there to be a friend, you will find a friend. just be kind and nice to people that you meet everywhere you go. i still think you can check out this book that i told you about. i hope you will make a right choice when it comes to finding friends because you want to stay away from bad friends that used you. okay, best of luck to you. bye!
Reply:Yeah, money will buy you friends.
Reply:find people with the same intrests with you

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