RSVP-people who havent responded?

I sent out invitations for my baby shower two weeks ago and I have had two people call me, the others told me through other people or when I asked them about it. There is still 5 more days before the rsvp deadline, but my question is-WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR PEOPLE TO REPLY THE WAY AN RSVP CARD SAYS??? My mother in law and I are the ones listed on the card but i have had people rsvp through my grandma and my mom. its so frustrating, i have so much other stuff going on, why do people think i have the time to hunt them down for an rsvp??


When should i start calling people that havent replied yet? Should i wait until the deadline has passed or should i start calling them this week? the shower is in three weeks and i need to know how many people are going to be there so we can plan out a menu. thanks so much

RSVP-people who havent responded?
Wait until after the deadline. Sometimes people wait because they are checking the schedules...may have other things pending and they cannot give you an answer yet. So wait until the deadline, then call. You will find that as the deadline gets closer, more people will respond so there will be no need to call...they like to wait till the last minute. There are a few people who will not do as the instructions ask and yes they are very rude. As for the people who have responded thru someone else, I would call them also and just say "My grandmother told me you were coming, but I just wanted to verify in case she mis understood...you are coming right?" I would plan for at least 75% of the people you invited to show up...that is a good starting point. You can adjust the amount from there.





Good Luck!!!
Reply:You sent out invitations for *your* shower? Sorry but that is not good form ... someone else should be doing ALL of the shower stuff for you- including following up on RSVPs. Yes, people are rude about replying - or rather *not* replying when requested but many young people simply are not taught what RSVP means. In the meantime, ask your MIL to take over. She should call on or just after the date that people were requested to RSVP. Make your menu simple enough that it can serve few or many - it's not worth stressing over. People get tired of being asked to buy presents - which is all a shower is after all ... an invitation to buy you a present should be made by someone other than yourself.
Reply:I agree with froggie. People are not very good with RSVPs. I would wait until the day after the deadline and then start making your calls. Also, keep in mind that some people may not really know if they will be able to attend until the last minute. Always plan for more than have sent in their RSVP to be safe.
Reply:If you want to make sure everything goes as planned, you need to call them. That's what's throwing a party entails, like it or not.
Reply:People are impolite when it comes to these things and sometimes ignorant. A lot of people think that RSVP means "call me if you canNOT attend", even though it really means "please reply (whether or not you are coming)". Call them the day after the deadline to find out if they are coming or not. Doing it before the deadline makes no sense...that's the reason you have a deadline.