Why do people think they're BETTER than other people?

So many people go around social environments, going through the trouble of pretending to be nice only to come up with lame reasons as too why they're so much better than so many other people... and their excuse is along the lines of, you're in your "own little world". I'm beginning to believe there is no such thing as "nice" people. Just people ultimately out to use each other, and worst of all, can't even bring themselves to admit it because they're "such a nice person". So they cover themselves in as many lies and excuses and possible, bending words and basic common sense, until you give up and go away? Does this basically sum up human nature? Does anyone disagree? I'm sure in other countries, people are genuinely nice and trying to be. In America, people are so g@dd@mn superficial, they step on people to get ahold of dreams that don't even exist in reality instead of taking the time to build intimate relationships with one another... over a period time, of course.

Why do people think they're BETTER than other people?
Some people who feel inadequate about themselves, find their way out of it by abusing others so that they can feel superior. They are usually worse if they were fortunate and lucky enough to achieve something in life others haven't, and tend to be uncaring or unsympathetic, toward other people's challenges.





My daughter is a prime example of this: As a little girl, she used to be sweet and caring and a joy to be around. At 15 she met her first boyfriend who was the son of a a town's prominent family who are worth millions, and at the time had an uncle serving their community in Congress.





From that point on, she became a snotty b*tch. I was hoping that time and a few blows would make her realize the error of her ways, but at 28 she's yet to outgrow it.





She was always a straight A student. Great, it came quite easy to her. She had a bit of a harder time in college and then in medical school, but she made it. To make matters worse (as far as her personality shows), she met the son of a prominent cardiologist in a large Texas city while she was attending medical school there and she married him nearly two years ago. He's a snob and so is his family. Attending her wedding was the biggest nightmare of my life because his family looked down on me and she didn't discourage them from doing so.





I lost my daughter, because I have never been able to achieve what she has and she has no respect for me, and can't relate to the fact that I had it a lot harder in life than she can ever hope to have it.





I'm glad that she's made it in life, and she'll never know what poverty is. But the only way I can ever have a relationship with her again is when she learns to realize that not everyone has had the same opportunities she had.





This "If I can do it, you can do it" attitude is a myth. Not everyone has the same abilities to cope with life and some of us were born with challenges. I love her, and it is killing me that I can't see her without fearing that she'll put me down. So I have made up my mind that I don't ever want to see her again, unless she changes. I'm not holding my breath.





The truth is I hate her. (Don't get so shocked, as there is a fine line between love and hate). However, I hope that some day I will feel the same indifference toward her than toward anyone else in the street, so that I don't have to feel sad about my failed relationship with her.
Reply:oh, that's their option, i suppose.


your point is concrete.
Reply:because they are
Reply:I believe people consider themselves better than other people because it makes them FEEL better about THEMSELVES. It's like building themselves up at the expense of others. I think that is the root of racism, also.
Reply:In a reality people don't want to believe that they're NOT better than other people. Thinking that you're so much greater than someone is a mental defense mechanism and you might not even realize that you're doing it. Someone who does this m ight be reading this thinking "no but i actually AM better than them, id ont do this defense mechanism." But thats exactly what they're doing. They know that there are people/things better than them...there HAVE to be because no one is perfect. We as humans are still underdeveloped and don't know how to handle this kind of pressure.
Reply:I agree. However I personally dont think anyone is "better" than anyone else. Take away their money, material items we are all equal. I do think that others are as you say. I have had a few experiences that has lead me to believe a person really dont have many if any real friends in this world. Most folks are all out for themselves. They will step on you, use you, talk about you and abuse you if it will gain them a step on the so called ladder of sucess. Sad but true.
Reply:If you really get to KNOW others you will see too that even the superficial ones are "real people",but blinded.Don't be like them.


Wherever is a human being,there is hope.Awareness is the key to many inner doors.
Reply:When people act like they are better than others, that's out of insecurity and lack of confidence.





I think people are basically decent but can be corrupted by bad influences. I do agree that people can be very superficial.





Maybe you need to find some better people to hang with? There are good people out there who don't step on or betray others to get to their goals. They are out there. Pay attention to a person's character when you meet them and you'll be able to tell who is who.





Stick with the solid people who don't lie or exaggerate, who do what they say they are going to do and don't make excuses or make up stories, pay their bills on time, are respectful of other people, help others, don't drink or do drugs, and probably go to church. Those are the people with good character who will support your goals.





Good luck to you.
Reply:That's just human nature, it's not exclusive to America, and other countries are not some paradise where everything that's wrong with America is magically fixed.


I have to admit I didn't really understand what you're complaining about -- that you try to be part of a group and they don't accept you but are too "nice" to tell you, and make excuses instead? Or what? Maybe they don't want to hurt your feelings.


People do use each other and not admit it to themselves. You can't change anyone but yourself. As long as you are the best person you can be, you will find suitable friends.