Why are people so Harsh on cheaters?

Has anyone taking a cheating spouse back and it worked? I mean there are alcoholics who successfully stop drinking just like there are people with drug problems who can stop. And there are overweight people who lose weight and keep it off. These are all serious problems people face everyday. So why is it so hard for people to believe that cheaters can't stop? Its like people who cheat get kicked to the curb but people who smoke cigerettes or drink or do drugs get more support? I have never cheated I just wanted to know why people are so harsh on cheaters. All these problems I mentioned can hurt friends family and loved ones. But people just have no tolerance for cheaters. Why is that?

Why are people so Harsh on cheaters?
Because most don't know the whole story. I truely believe that some cheaters aren't meant to be cheaters, and some crave the cheating as a mode of self-confindence. Might not make sense to you though unless you've ever been in the situation.
Reply:thats a good question. maybe its because cheaters cant b trusted and trust is really a problem in this world. im only 18 but i know trust is very important to me. If my friends arent trustworthy then they will no longer be my friends they are now associates. call me harsh but it is what it is. I cant stand liers and people who cheat are liers. i would kick a cheater to the curb to.
Reply:My first wife cheated on me 4 times. the first three times I forgave and took her back. the Fourth time I walked out and never looked back. I have not heard from her since the day I left and that was 42 yrs ago. Once a cheater always a cheater
Reply:in most cases it's about trust. cheating is a break of trust, and once your trust in someone is broken, it is VERY hard to ever trust that person again. it can be done, and i've heard of cases where a cheater was taken back and the relationship worked out. i don't really believe that once someone cheats once they will always cheat, but it would be hard to take back a cheater just because of the lack of trust for awhile. trust is very important to a good relationship.
Reply:come on!!! there's no comparison in a cheater to someone with a serious addiction problem. wat planet are you on???


you've obviously never been cheated on by someone who means anything to you either that or your guilty of cheating too!!! but seriously cheating is so bad because it means the cheater intentionly felt nothing for you at that moment.. ive seen people with addictions who still love their family, but can you really say a cheating partner loves you at the moment they do it??? dont think so!!
Reply:I agree, I think they should change the name... to somethinf softer in the ears....lol





I think it's because they are soo gelous that they are stuck with thier boring spouse, and would love nothing more than the wildest hottest, sex ever...... or they are really young like in their mid 20's... but jsut wait till they are in their 30's with two young screaming kids and a husband who dosen't even care about them only himself... well, then you will understand. And guys well, well just cheat cause we just get too many offers that after the years we have no choice..lol
Reply:i do not believe that once a cheater is always a cheater.....i am living proof..!!!...i cheated with everyone i was with...except the person i;m with now.....{♥}...anyone change if they want to{♥}
Reply:Because it is wrong and sneaky and deceitful.....this is a trait....alcholics can change if they want as can drug addicts, but unfortunately they have a high relapse rating. However these things are not the same as cheating on someone you are committed to.





People should have NO tolerance for cheaters.
Reply:just because you think its right to cheat dosemnt make it so





people that are fat etc etc have reasons for it big bones slow motabalism whaat ever





there not hurting anynoe by eating





how can you say why are people harsh on cheaters hopefully one day you get hurt the same way some one dose that gets cheated on...when that day comes...then ask how we can be harsh on cheaters
Reply:I have taken a cheating spouse back, and no it didn't work. I couldn't trust him anymore. I was always questioning his whereabouts, I would always think about what they did together, and it would make me sick to my stomach. Me leaving him was not a case of will he do it again? I don't think he would have, It was a case of how could he have done this to me? I started feeling bad about myself, I became depressed. I could not trust him anymore. I am now single and loving it.