Instead of demeaning overweight people,why don't people encourage them to feel good about themselves?

Most people do not realize that most obese people do not consume more calories than most people,they simply do not exercise enough to burn it off and it gets stored as fat,some overweight people have hormonal or endocrine problems that have contributed,only a small handful are compulsive and chronic overeaters.Instead of people putting down and bashing overweight people,why not make them feel good about themselves so they will have the courage to go out AND EXERCISE AND TAKE BETTER CARE OF THEIR BODIES.Why must people be so shallow.ALLOT of overweight people feel embarressed to be out in public let alone go to a gym or exercise class.Because they feel ashamed and I THINK THAT IS A SHAME! BEAUTY COMES IN ALL SIZES.WHY DON'T PEOPLE TAKE MORE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HOW THEY TREAT OTHERS???THINK ABOUT IT???

Instead of demeaning overweight people,why don't people encourage them to feel good about themselves?
Thick chicks fo' life!!! I agree. There are a whole lot of skinny people who are ugly, only because of the way they demean people of size.


Trust me, a big person knows they are big and don't need voluntarily retarded @$$holes telling us this.


Asker, I am becoming one of your fans. This is something that I also feel very passionately about.
Reply:I remember one time in 6th grade I stayed in class during recess to finish an assignment or something ... and this mean little blonde girl named Tanya came up to my desk and just stood there (only me and her in the room) and said simply, "You're FAT." She stood there in front of my desk for about 15 seconds, waiting for a response from me, but I kept my eyes down, and didn't react, as if I didn't hear her ... just another nail in the coffin of my low self-esteem.





I did hear her, though, so much that I can still see her mean little face 24 years later. Sure, I've lost and gained weight many times since then, and usually always been stocky, but she's just one of many, many reasons why, deep down, I still irrationally hate myself to this day. It's cool, though, because I can usually keep that stuff buried.





Tanya Whatever-your-last-name-was, from Mrs. McCollum's 6th grade class in 1983 at Central Elementary in Jerome Idaho ... I STILL HATE YOU.

















Yeah, making fun of fat people destroys them mentally (IF THEY LET IT) but it could be the motivator that eventually makes them decide, "I'm not going to allow myself to be 'the fat one' anymore" and they lose the weight. Whoever takes it upon themselves to be that kind of "motivator", though, ends up being an "azzhole-4-LIFE".





Life's not about what size you are ... it's about if you feel good about yourself. If you truly feel good, you start to look good, too -- to yourself AND to other people.
Reply:PREACH ON GIRL!!
Reply:It is not healthy to be grossly overweight. It would be irresponsible to try to make someone that fat feel good about their fatness and to not change it.
Reply:yeh youre right
Reply:Now bear with me here, I do NOT make fun of fat people, but don't you think that if no one gave them a hard time, then they wouldn't be so motivated to lose weight? I know I was gettin kinda chunky and was just dealing with it, then one night one of my good friends kinda poked my gut and said "you're getting a little budda there." I was so embarassed, i looked a little harder in the mirror and saw that I was packin it on. I went on to lose 30 lbs in the next 6 months.
Reply:Hello,





I think this situation varies from person to person. For me, negative comments and badgering work much better to motivate me than praise and coddling. You also have to learn at times to laugh at yourself and take things in stride.


When a skinny geeky girl told my overweight step daughter off about her weight one time she answered well I can diet and change my looks... you cannot.


When some poor starving artists met me one time they looked at a small pot belly I had and said, tell me one thing man, how did you get so f'ng fat? I raised my glass of beer, let out a loud urrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrp and slammed a bunch of 20 dollar bills on the table saying, prosperity boy! They got up and left.





All in all one has to lighten up, realize there will always be critics and just carry on. Lose the weight and they'll find something else to criticize anyway.





Cheers,





Michael Kelly
Reply:Demeaning people is never appropriate (other than a few trolls asking "questions" around here...Mr Mom I'm talking to you!!).





But your statement that only a "small handful" of overweight/obese people got that way from chronic overeating makes you an apologist...and an enabler....and undermines your efforts to address the social injustice your seeing (or perhaps experiencing yourself).





What exactly is the difference between consistently overeating and then "not exercising enough to burn it off"...and being a chronic or compulsive over eater? The people in question didn't wake up one day and magically discover their 30+ BMI score....THEY HAD TO OVEREAT...FAIL TO EXERCISE... AND IGNORE THE


CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS FOR YEARS...in order to end up in that condition!!!





Yes...we should encourage them to exercise and eat right. NO people shouldn't taunt or embarrass them based on their obesity. But we also shouldn't apologize or make excuses for their lack of self-discipline and poor decision making...I can personally assure you...that will not help!
Reply:in fact, the endorphins released when taunting a fat person are very beneficial to the thin person. this is that fat person's objective, and the reason our species has allowed them to continue to exist--they are useless on their own, and the only purpose they serve is as easy targets of fat jokes.





they shouldn't be made to feel good about themselves. as fatties, they inherently lack value as human beings, and should be ostracized.
Reply:It's bad enough that people taunt fat adults... But you should see what it's like for a child!!! Kids are brought up by their parents to not hang around with the uncool fatties and... those children become complexed their whole lives, even if they do lose the extra-weight...
Reply:I used to listen to Dr Laura Schlesinger until somebody called in and complained that his fiance was too fat. Dr Laura's answer was that he should dump her because anybody who can't control their weight is a loser.





It doesn't matter whether obesity is caused by genetics or compulsive over-eating (which could also be genetic). Dr Laura revealed her true character by making a blanket judgment about somebody she'd never met based on just one adjective: "fat." But that blanket statement told me much more about Dr Laura than Dr Laura knows about anybody's fat fiance.





Bigotry comes in a lot of forms. Bigotry against fat people, colored people, people born in the wrong spot, people with different sexual preferences, even bigotry against kids who do well in school. But their bigotry is not your problem. You should be glad that, by taunting you, they are revealing the rot in their own minds so that you can treat them with the appropriate disdain.